by Betsy Wetzig, BA, CCPT
Un-forgiveness hurts us both physically and mentally because the whole forgiveness process ( from the moment we receive the injury or loss, until the moment we can finally forgive) is a bio-electric process of our basic self. We each have a neuromuscular, bio-electric nerve-muscular-brain system. It is our body-mind link. It is what makes us psychosomatic, but its “not all in your head!”
1) We receive the hurt and react with our habituated stress reactions >. Might be tightening ribs, or back of neck or any place in your body you have often reacted to stress. Our brain is put on alert… “Danger, Danger.” Plus our old chronic pains often show up.
2) We are reminded or think of the hurt. > Our “gut” reacts. Emotions are both physical and mental. Our brain may get stuck in a loop of anger, depression, and fear. Ye old chronic pains act up…backache, headaches or more.
3) We try to will our forgiveness but it doesn’t work because all behavior is both physical and mental and willing won’t make a difference without the physical half of our ‘self.” Un-forgiveness gets stuck in our whole being.
>>>GOOD NEWS…. Our forgiveness process is part of our DNA and can be fully accessed with the same bio-electric processes that get us stuck. Your Coordination Patterns and Dynamics are the bio-electric system of the mind-body and movement-mind link.
The Forgiveness Workshop on Dec. 2nd at Twin Ponds will teach you how to use this system with fun, simple movement exercises and understanding.
“For 10 years I could not completely forgive two friends who hurt me during my husband’s funeral,,, but within the 3 hours of Betsy’s workshop the deed was done!” *Seattle, WA Workshop Participant.