by Betsy Wetzig, BA, CCPT
Do you ever find confusion, disturbing or just plain wrong? Many people have an essential need to:
- get data in order, with a “cause and effect” correctness, and
- to move from one correct step to the next with “think first” as a priority.
Others have a fierce need for clarity. The USA culture for the most part looks down on confusion. Even speech is pushed toward political correctness and clarity. BUT, To be our best self, everyone needs randomness and playful confusion as well as correctness and clarity.
Why It Happens and Helps Us:
Randomness, paradox and thus “confusion” are aspects of reality. Ignoring and avoiding them is a dis-service to ourselves and others.
Life changes and the correct structures we build often crumble or shift suddenly. Accepting confusion as good gives us time to change and improve.
Sometimes people important to us (especially children) impose their randomness and play on us. Our acceptance of this confusion leads to better communication and relationship?
In certain behaviors such as change management, forgiveness, and mourning, confusion is part of the process and can be a useful and healthful tool.
Though we are genetically programmed to prefer certain ways of functioning (personality types and styles), we all need all our biological, movement-mind Dynamics and Style Types to utilize our full brain and movement abilities. (Driver-Thrust-Sensating, Organizer-Shape-Thinking, Collaborator-Swing-Feeling, Explorer-Hang-Intuition). The Collaborator and Explorer Patterns both function with essential randomness and confusion. These “confusion” abilities are in us all, although many have been trained to ignore them.
Some of Confusion’s Abilities and Joys:
Using randomness and chaotic playfulness is fun and childlike. It can help everyone be younger at heart. It is one reason why young children learn with such speed and ability, and can improve adults learning abilities as well.
Acceptance of confusion can help people let go of anger towards people functioning the “wrong” way.
Holding and playing with confusion and paradox leads to increased and productive creativity. This is true for science as well as the arts.
Total correctness and order leads to immobility. Our brain gets into a habit of correctness. We can constantly do and think the same things, the same way, over and over again. Accepting confusion, especially playful confusion, can free us.