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Get Rid of Anger Fast!

by Betsy Wetzig

Ancient wisdom tells us not to hold onto anger. Science tells us that prolonged anger or holding onto anger is bad for our biochemistry, joints, and general well-being. So why do we do it?

 

The multiple reasons why we hold onto anger are many, including:

  1. fear/self-protection
  2. in part we are incorrect/ we contributed to the wrong
  3. inability to fix the situation
  4. confusing anger with old hurts
  5. using anger to control others or the situation, and
  6. dealing with anger in a purely cognitive or emotional way, failing to realize that anger is a physical and mental behavior

Here are some basic, physical tools for loosening and releasing anger’s physicality. Play with these and you will discover more.

  1. Loosen your joints by shaking, and wiggling. Ye old, “Shake it off” works. Make sure you don’t hold your head or shoulders still as you shake.
  2. Sigh and let yourself feel like you are melting. Let your hands open up. Feel the sense of letting go physically.
  3. Hit something soft like a pillow as you vent. Express your venting verbally, and even use sounds such as a pirate’s “arrgg” or a sob.  Don’t try to edit what you are speaking. Get it out. You can speak to a trusted person or do it by yourself.
  4. Breathe at whatever your comfort level speed is for your actions #1-3. Then start to slow your breath, let yourself feel heavy and relax more, and more, as you add in occasional sighs. The heavier you feel, the more relaxed you are.
  5. As you relax, feel heavy and physically let go at the end of every exhale, and then begin to ponder about your “goodies”… “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy… at this moment in your life…especially for you.”
  6. AND THEN allow thankfulness beginning to move you any way you want…. Maybe walk, run, sit and write, perhaps sigh and shake off some more. Just let yourself be physical. You might try letting in some music. Repeat anything from #1-5 until you feel a bit calm.
  7. Now you can add to the calmness the more mental, cognitive side of justice, solutions and your own spiritual dimensions. As you do, you can let in and blend the physical tools numbers 1-6…as you like, in your own time.

Practice these tools and the physicality of releasing anger.

Based on Coordination Pattern Training & Dynamics

From Resentment to Love—with Meditation

Is there anyone in your life that challenges your serenity?  Of course, we all have such people and situations.

The question is what to do about it? Holding resentment and anger hardens our hearts, taking the joy and serenity from our lives. You may have heard the saying that if you hold revenge in your heart, you’ll need two graves. One for the person upon whom you wish revenge and the other for you!

Chronic anger and animosity breed a host of diseases not to mention unhappiness and discord. The UN charter reads, “War begins in the mind.” The good news is that we have the power to charge.

Louise Hay, a wise teacher and best-selling author, suggests that we send our troublemakers love. The next time you catch yourself replaying those negative internal messages of despair and anger over the actions of others, remind yourself to “send
them love”.

We do not have to love what they’ve done. Their actions may have really hurt. Do you, however, want to hold onto the hurt and anger, or do you wish to move beyond it?

Sending them love puts forth a positive transformational energy. We have the power to bring light to our world through our thoughts and intentions. Try it and notice the impact
on the quality of your life.

Steve, an Effortless Meditation™ client, was frequently rehashing feelings of sadness and loneliness. His family, upset by decisions he had made and actions he had taken, shunned him. He was no longer welcome in their home or in their lives.

Although Steve’s actions were in accord with his conscience, they were not in alignment with the family’s desires and values. They no longer returned his phone calls or initiated any communication with him. Steve’s hurt and sadness replayed over and over in his mind.

After years of distress, Steve learned of this empowering approach in a coaching session.  When his recurring negative feelings toward his family come up, he now sends them love. Almost immediately, he reported feeling better, happier and more at peace. The resentment and sadness was lifting.

Steve is powerless over the thoughts and actions of his family. By sending his family love, his thoughts and feelings have changed. He has jump started his healing process from within.