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The Unexpected Leadership Breakthru with Coordination Pattern™ Training

Susan was looking for what? All she  wanted to do was relax, learn a bit, and take some time for herself.  The Self and Joy Renewal Retreat was running at Twin Ponds Center. The flyer said, “Enjoy fun, play, food/cooking, music… along with mind-movement understanding.”  Why not give it a try?

On the first night, as the group was making the English Tea, Susan realized that what she really wanted was to break out of the behaviors that were holding her back at work. Already, she was getting a core understanding of how she functioned and differed from others. So when filling out and discussing Betsy’s handouts on Family Styles and Types, she saw how some of her “restricting” habits were learned in her family and culture while others were her reactions to stress.  A light bulb was going off, “I can change!”

Overnight she glanced through Betsy’s book, Moves to Greatness: Focusing the Four Essential Energies of a Whole and Balanced Leader. The section on Swing/ Collaborator/ Leadership weaknesses really hit a cord.

By Saturday, Susan was already using her new creativity and communication skills. Who would have thought her plate of vegetables… as she is a person who always has to be “Correct and Proper” … would win the “Most Humorous” award. Although it was, as Besty pointed out still wonderfully placed and orderly.

Later, as the group made and enjoyed dinner, Susan was fully on board with her newleadership skills.  She had actually experienced how the Coordination Pattern™ Breakthru Training exercises opened up her movement and most surprisingly, her mind; how they allowed her to Swing into her interactive and playful self which had been ignored and pushed down. She told Betsy, “I can hardly wait to lead my next team meeting at work.  I used to dread them.  Now I can enjoy and use my team members’ ways of functioning instead of trying to control and organize them into little copies of me…… I’m wondering what George’s reaction will be when I start enjoying his stories and jokes instead of giving him a dirty look to keep him on task.  It makes me laugh just to think of it.”

Susan was so thrilled with what she learned at this workshop that she signed up to attend the weekly classes.  She knew that this Coordination Pattern™ “Breakthru” Training helped her to break through to a new and improved level of leadership and a more satisfied life.

Betsy Wetzig, Originator of
Coordination Pattern
Breakthru Training

The Incredible Value of Play for Adults!

Carol was bored on her daily one-hour walks, so she inventeda game to entertain herself. In the next two blocks she would take exactly 300 steps. Walking as “normally” as possible; first day – needed 25 mini steps, second day – needed 10  giant steps, third day-tried zig-zags and only needed 10 mini steps (zig-zags were fun), and so on.

Little did she know that as she was playing she was also improving her mind; improving the way her brain and body handled space, time, design, and even stress.  So, later she was surprised when she was able to avoid a car which had suddenly swerved into her lane by almost effortlessly maneuvering her car, going off the road safely and well.

Play can be lifesaving which is why the military teaches its officers how to improve their ability to play. Einstein riding on a trolley, pretended (played) to ride a light beam as he was watching the town hall clock which enabled him to get the insight he needed to discover that e = mc sq. Miles Davis played with the notes to find the “real” music.

Play helps us deal with our ordeals, and lighten the stress and loads of our lives. Play opens up and heightens our short-term memory and can even help us use our dreams to solve problems, especially creative problems.

Play can help us to use all our talents and skills better, and even lower pain levels and help us heal faster. Play can bring incredible insights into the way you and others function in daily life.

Many people have discovered that a family that plays together is creating a structure and trust that helps when problems arise. The same trust issues can be developed by play in business, which is why those golf and other outings are important and worth the time and money.

There is a funny paradox:  play can improve us without our knowing it. Useful play is a skill that can be improved. You too can learn how to use play more effectively which is why I have joined with Jungian and play expert, Dr. Mary Alice Long, to create the workshop: “Know Thy Self and Play for Success.”

Join us for four days of playful transformation. For more information see our flyer.  Learn how to play with your problems and stress and turn them into the game pieces of success, as you also improve your
creativity and leadership abilities (including parenting).  Besides, we are going to be playing and we’re going to have fun!

By Betsy Wetzig, Originator of Coordination Pattern™ “Breakthru” Training

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Better Communication for my Valentine!

Connie’s body was tight and her biggest complaint was that her back hurt when she started attending my  classes and learned exercises that released the tension in her body and her back pain.  But for Connie,  a more important bonus was the “behavioral aspect” of my Pattern Training. It offered a way for her to understand why she and other people behave the way they do.   So, Connie took the gift of this Training to her special “Valentine” and husband, Matt.  Now, they not only use the physical aspects of the Training, but have come to enjoy the Training’s “Breakthru” of improved communication, and a better understanding of themselves, and the dynamics of family life.

Connie told me, “Your knowledge about the mind-movement link is powerful.  I have found that for understanding ourselves and each other (my husband and I), the Training has not only helped us through our struggling times, but has also supported us in appreciating our differences.” Then she said, “Let me give you an example. You taught me that the dominant Pattern of my mind and movement is Swing, which means that I can be spontaneous, quick to process, and playful. My husband uses more Shape Pattern, and thus is more slow, methodical and practical. I have learned to honor his process and push only a little. When we disagree on something, I give him his space to process before we work things out. When we make big decisions, he slows me down which allows me to process more deeply so I can then get in touch with my feelings and be sure about my decision.”

And with a smile she added “I’m glad my husband and I aren’t alike.  We enjoy and appreciate each other the more we understand ourselves and each other. Good communication is so rewarding!  It makes being in a relationship more interesting and fulfilling.”

Then after she thought for a moment she said, “This Coordination Pattern “Breakthru” Training has been effective and helpful knowledge that we have applied not only to our “Valentine” relationship, but now also in the raising of our children.”

Betsy Wetzig, Founding Director of Coordination Pattern “Breakthru” Training and Full Potential Learning